Top 3 Rules On How To Get Children To Do Almost Anything
There are lots of ways to get your children to do almost anything. From Bribery, to Moral Persuasion or just plainly using your Parental Authority despite any unsavory protests from your kids. Sometimes these techniques work , and sometimes they just don't!
Alicia Eaton though, says parents can influence their children to do almost anything – and that no shouting, bribing and threatening is necessary. She is a Harley Street, London hypnotherapist and neuron-linguistic programming practitioner.
Below are 3 of her top rules based on the methods from the ‘Language of Persuasion and Influence'. (LPI)
The LPI technique has been commonly used by TV advertisers and sales people for years and has been designed to encourage people to do what the advertisers want. Alicia Eaton says that there is no reason why parents can't employ the same method too. Let me know what you think? Would it work for you?
Check out 3 of her TOP RULES.(There are many more)
Always say what you DO want your child to do, and not what you DON'T
Alicia Eton advised against using negative phrases all the time.
Negative sentences such as the following won't help
“Don't do this” “Don't do that” “Don't leave your room in a mess” “Don't leave you school bag lying on the floor”
Instead, Alicia recommends to stop using the negative and start using positive language, basically as a rule of thumb, stop saying don't and start saying do
Positive phrases rather than negative phrases such as ‘Let's leave the room tidy and put all the Lego away'; ‘shoes belong in the cupboard under the stairs' are more likely to get faster results, and a happier ending!
Talk as if it's a given that your child will do what you ask
Use the word ‘When” to get your kids to complete a task. She describes the word as the most ‘hypnotic' word in the English language, because it gently implies that something will be done in the initial instance'
Eaton suggests phrases such as: ‘When you've tidied your room, we'll have some lunch', ‘When you've finished your maths homework, we'll be able to go out to the park' or ‘When you've put your uniform on, we can go downstairs for breakfast'.
Try Saying “Thank You” BEFORE Rather than After
Eaton suggests thanking children before they have carried out the desired task – like making a bed. ‘Once they've been thanked, they feel obligated to perform the task,' she says.
Eaton mentions the following points to the Daily Mail.
‘We're used to thanking people after they've done something for us, but what about thanking before it's been done?' says Eaton.
‘This often works well because children naturally want to please people, especially their parents.'
So next time you ask your child to wash their hands, come to the table or switch off the TV, quickly follow it up with a ‘thank you'.
‘It's a great way to wrong-foot a child who was going to ignore your request,' explains Eaton. ‘Once they've been thanked, they feel obligated to perform the task.'
Alicia also recommended two more interesting and important ideas that were just as useful, and worth applying, when dealing with kids
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