Helicopter Parenting Ruining A Generation Of Children
When Julie Lythcott-Haims was the dean of freshmen at Stanford University
she noticed an alarming trend, of mainly incoming students that were intelligent, and goal orientated, with virtually flawless results on paper, but as each year passed she witnessed more of them seemingly incapable of taking care of themselves.
She recently talked to the Chicago Tribune during her book tour of the states, and her opinion of helicopter parenting ruining a generation of children.
She appeared adamant that parents were doing more damage than they realized and talked about a simple test that can tell if you are one of these helicopter parents….
The Chicago Tribune reported the following;
“Our job as a parent is to put ourselves out of a job,” she said. “We need to know that our children have the wherewithal to get up in the morning and take care of themselves.”
So are you a helicopter parent? Here are some of Lythcott-Haims's simple tests:
1. Check your language. “If you say ‘we' when you mean your son or your daughter – as in, ‘We're on the travel soccer team' – it's a hint to yourself that you are intertwined in a way that is unhealthy,” Lythcott-Haims said.
2. Examine your interactions with adults in your child's life. “If you're arguing with teachers and principals and coaches and umpires all the time, it's a sign you're a little too invested,” she said. “When we're doing all the arguing, we are not teaching our kids to advocate for themselves.”
3. Stop doing their homework. Enough said.
And how can parents help their children become self-sufficient? Teach them the skills they'll need in real life, and give them enough leash to practice those skills on their own, Lythcott-Haims said. And have them do chores. “Chores build a sense of accountability. They build life skills and a work ethic.”
Lythcott-Haims said many parents ask how they can unilaterally de-escalate in what feels like a college-admissions arms race. How can they relax about getting their child into Harvard if every other parent is going full speed ahead?
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This kid of theme is certainly widespread and strikes a chord in most western societies today.
Do you think overparenting is getting in the way of helping our kids to become competent adults?
Lythcott-Haims has written the book“How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success.”
It is currently available on Amazon.com
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